There has been a constant topic that I’ve encountered lately and it is ‘How to be your true self?’
Have you ever been in a relationship where the other person made you feel like you were not doing enough or aren’t good enough? Let me correct something here, **you allowed that person to make you feel that way.
Often times we suppress who we really are because of what others’ might think of us or because someone had an opinion or simply because we are afraid. We constantly look for others approvals and validation. I remember times in past relationships (romantic and platonic) where I would hide what truly made me happy because I felt like I had to make that person happy by doing what I thought they thought was right. Tongue twister right? Just as that is a tongue twister, so is that thought creating a twisted version of yourself.
We also suppress who we really are when we think we have to fulfill a certain look or life that we see on social media. It’s a subconscious thought we create in our brains that sounds something like ‘I don’t have her glamorous life, so therefore, I’m just going to think less of myself’. That within itself creates a roadblock in our paths.
I have held back so many times because I would let fear cripple me. Fear of being rejected, fear of failing, fear of looking dumb, fear of saying too much, fear of loving too much, fear of serving, fear of not being enough, fear of not being able to fulfill my own life because I’m too busy looking at others’.
I have been thinking about all of of this a lot and it has certainly had a toll on me through my 20’s. Turning 30 has made me realize how much time I’ve wasted thinking and worrying about what others may think of me. Afraid of expressing myself because someone might think I’m this or that.
Writing and creating things is something that I’ve always loved to do. Encouraging and complimenting others is my favorite. However, somewhere along my time I stopped believing and trusting myself. So much so, that even though I could uplift others, I wasn’t allowing myself to be my true self because I wasn’t applying those things to myself. I was insecure and lacked confidence.
Now, don’t misinterpret my thoughts here – I have not “made it” or “know it all”. I’m simply speaking from experience and how I see life right now.
If you’re reading this right now, I encourage you to STOP suppressing who you really are. Start taking the steps to rediscover who you were made to be.
You are not anxiety. You are not “depression”. You are not “ugliness”. You are not “worthless”. You are not “no good for nothing”. If you’re sad or depressed, seek help and begin to take the steps to get out of that mental state. If you’re unhappy with how you look stop comparing yourself. If you struggle with anxiety, don’t stay there. If you are living in fear, KICK IT ASIDE or CLIMB OVER IT.
“For God has not given you the spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind” – II Tim. 1:7
Find your true self and own it. You’ll be on the road trip to a much happier life – the life you were meant to have
So, cheers to 30 years or how ever many years you are or wherever you are in your life. You are exactly where you need to be and if now is your time to change something, don’t look back and take those steps! It’s never too late.
Thanks for reading and watching!! Remember to smile often, love deeply, And live passionately. And, don’t be afraid to shine the light that is within you.
Until next time lovelies!
Here are some images of my 30th photo session:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson